Reframe it !

Yesterday, I found myself battling with my emotions. I’ve been trying to stay positive, but I can’t shake this feeling of being down.

Two weeks ago, a company that had been in negotiations with me earlier this year reached out to schedule a meeting. We briefly discussed their projects and their need for someone to manage client relationships, as they were overwhelmed and lacked an Indonesian capable of doing so.

They promised to send me a draft of the employment agreement last Wednesday, but after waiting without any news, I messaged the CEO. He assured me it would be sent over by Monday. However, Monday came and went with no updates, leaving me feeling like I was being strung along. I tried not to get my hopes up, reminding myself that if it’s meant to be, it will work out. I chose to give them the benefit of the doubt, as I can’t control the situation.

Two days ago, our helper informed me she wasn’t feeling well and might not return on time. Despite my mom’s concerns that she might be using this as an excuse to extend her holiday, I tried to remain understanding. However, I felt disappointed; I’ve been kind to her, and it’s frustrating if she’s not being truthful.

In my low state, I stumbled upon a YouTube sermon about fighting negativity that really resonated with me. The core message was that while we can’t control our circumstances, we can control how we frame them. For example, when it rains in the morning, two people can react differently:

• The positive one might think, "Thank God for the rain; it’s refreshing!"
• The negative one might lament, "Oh no, it’s raining! This ruins my mood; I just want to sleep in."

The sermon offered some valuable tips for combating negativity:

1. Thank God it didn’t turn out worse.
2. Reframe your perspective.
3. Look for the goodness in the situation.

Feeling inspired, I decided to follow these tips, and to my surprise, things began to shift for the better. Our helper decided to return as scheduled and asked for just one day of rest, which I happily granted, even if she needed two days.

Additionally, the co-founder of the company reached out again, informing me they are hiring a Chief of Revenue who will be in touch with me for a chat. At least it’s not a definitive “no” yet.